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A Million Voices of Optimism

We ask people "What makes you Optimistic?"   One of our strategic goals is to stimulate and collect one million voices of optimism.

In this blog collection of optimism on the way to "A Million Voices of Optimism," members and subscribers of The Centre for Optimism can post what makes them optimistic and the answers from people they have asked. 

If you want to contribute to this valuable global resource, please email our COO Victor Perton for a free subscription or support our work by joining as a member.

  • Sunday, April 11, 2021 6:28 AM | Victor Perton (Administrator)

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    If you are wishing to encourage optimism in your children consider these time-honored strategies:

    1. Help your children set themselves up for success. Participating in tasks, academic activities and physical sports that are within your child’s ability will provide them with positive experiences increasing their self-esteem and allowing them to see themselves as capable.

    2.Give specific feedback on what your child does well. Instead of offering general praise, be specific. “You practiced so many multiplication problems that you earned an A on your recent test.” “Your effort and practice earn you better grades.”

    3.Validate their feelings offering some strategies for looking more hopefully at the circumstances. “It didn’t feel very good to miss the goal at soccer, but your footwork on the field was excellent. Daddy and I will play more with you in the backyard so you are better prepared for the next time.”

    4. Use positive not negative labels. Negative labels lead children to believe they are the label. So use positive labels when talking with and about your child. As an example, when your child exhibits a behavior that is unsuitable such as whining refrain from calling your child a “whiner” and practice using a new tone with your child. “Joey, when you ask for what you want in a positive tone, I can respond better to you.” “Let’s use a happy tone as we talk with one another.”

    5.Comment on the bright side. “I know it’s raining so we must play indoors, this is our chance to make a huge train station today.”

  • Sunday, April 11, 2021 6:17 AM | Victor Perton (Administrator)
    1. Stop complaining: It’s easy to focus on negative thoughts and frustrations and to moan about these in front of your child. Toddlers tend to mimic your actions since you are her role model. The more you moan and groan about things, the more likely they will be to pick up on this trait as well. Try to view the glass as half full and find something to be grateful or happy about each day. Build it into your daily routine that each member of the family reveals the worst thing that happened to them that day, the best thing, and the thing they are most grateful for. Not only will this help your toddler see something good in every day, but it will help to improve your outlook as well.
    2. Look at the positive: Everyone has a bad or grumpy day – accept this and the fact that your toddler (and you) are entitled to feeling off on occasion. Embrace that emotion and talk it through. Then try to put a positive spin on this.
    3. Encourage routine and chores: Find an age-appropriate chore for your toddler, like helping you pick out clothes or pajamas for each day, put dirty laundry in the basket, or help pack toys away. Having the opportunity to prove their worth, will help your toddler to develop an optimistic, can-do attitude. Giving them simple tasks helps them feel capable and proud of their achievements.
    4. Promote risk-taking: Of course, this needs to be within reason. Your natural reaction may be to discourage your child from certain activities as you want to protect her from injury or failure. But this can encourage a pessimistic attitude or a belief that she is not good enough. Allowing your child to try new things or activities like climbing that jungle gym or going down that slide will help boost her confidence. Of course, you want to keep your child safe, but you also want to encourage her to try new things and be proud of her achievements.
    5. Stop interfering: It is natural to want to try and help your child, be it sounding out a new word, trying to fit a piece into a puzzle, or putting on an item of clothing. Your first reaction will be to intervene. However, letting your toddler try and solve this on her own allows her to feel a sense of accomplishment and helps her be more optimistic about her abilities and what she can achieve.
    6. Have realistic expectations: Seeing the sunny side of life doesn’t mean that your child needs to be protected from reality. In fact, the opposite is true. Optimism, say the experts, is based on having realistic expectations. This helps create an adaptable child who is prepared for whatever she faces and is more resilient.
    7. Be a good role model: Your view of the world is communicated to your child daily. If you want your toddler to be more optimistic – you will need to be more optimistic yourself.
    8. Keep track: Life and business coach Gill Cedarwall explains that keeping track of your mood is an important tool for optimism. Use the acronym HALT ( Hungry |  Angry |  Lonely | Tired).  If you or your toddler is feeling one or more of these things, there is the danger of emotions becoming overwhelming, and it’s time to take corrective action

  • Monday, April 05, 2021 5:22 AM | Victor Perton (Administrator)

    By having a more optimistic outlook, you are better able to avoid the all-or-none thinking that keeps you in the mental rut of believing that when one thing goes wrong, everything goes wrong—or that things will never get better. 

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  • Sunday, April 04, 2021 7:50 AM | Victor Perton (Administrator)

    I am an optimist and choose to celebrate the beauty and wonder of the world. My works are meant to bring happiness and a sense of calm to viewers.

  • Friday, April 02, 2021 5:27 PM | Victor Perton (Administrator)

    "It’s been a long, difficult year, but now that more and more people are getting vaccinated against the virus, I’m starting to feel optimistic that the worst parts of the pandemic will soon be behind us."

  • Friday, April 02, 2021 9:41 AM | Victor Perton (Administrator)

    Jennifer Powell writes:

    I am an optimist in a pessimistic world. A fish out of water. I hold hope to ward off messages of defeat. In a world rife with suffering, hope is essential for soul survival. In my world with secondary progressive multiple sclerosis, it has been my saving grace.

    There is nothing contrived about my persona. I have grown to become the woman I am today.

    I cultivated a new perspective after years of living in the problem. I found the negative narrative useless. Like quicksand, the suckhole enveloped all of me. The struggle du jour, while reality, became an identity. It was not sustainable. I wanted more from my life.

    I enrolled myself in several workshops to learn about, then heal my mind. Three-day intensives turned to weekly classes. The stories we tell ourselves often handicap us far worse than any disease.

    Once I was able to identify those counterproductive nuances, I made peace with each before letting them go. The release was both cathartic and frightening. The integrity within forbade excuses. In that weightlessness, I grew.

    That was over 25 years ago, and long before my odyssey with multiple sclerosis. I credit my mindset to being able to coexist with this disease. I can hold the realities of life with MS and choose hope, cling to my faith, and set goals.

    Being an optimist does not mean I am ignorant. I fully comprehend the realities in my world and that of the world around me. I choose to focus on aspects that propel me forward as opposed to holding me back.

    I still experience pain and fatigue, worry about my family and those I love, and fear this disease. However, none of these are drivers in my life. While their factuality is undeniable, their power is not. I decide that.

    The title of my column is “Silver Linings.” A silver lining is a sign of hope or light in an otherwise negative situation. I see silver linings because I have lived amid the darkness. I savor hope after experiencing its countersense. Unless you have been in the dark, you can never fully appreciate the light.

    Although I choose light, darkness is an inevitable part of life. Choosing optimism is not ignoring the dark but taking it for what it is. Darkness without the storied narrative is nothing to fear. It has now become a sanctuary where I find calm and respite. Even in times of chaos and pain, I define its realm.

    And so can you.

  • Monday, March 29, 2021 6:16 AM | Victor Perton (Administrator)

    "To be a feminist you have to be an optimist. And the optimist in me tells me we have reached a tipping point on the issue of sexual assault. That the vast majority of Australians are outraged by what they see going on in the building that allegedly houses their leaders."

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